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Recommended Reading  - OPTS Bookshelf

There are some very helpful publications that will inform and enlighten you about surrogate parenting.  Not all of them are still in print.  However, your library should be able to obtain them for you, on an inter-library loan, if necessary.  They are:  


Phoebe's Family by Linda Stamm, Psy.D, a book on egg donation for
children. Published by Tapestry Books, Hillsborough, NJ. 2003 Order at

The Unofficial Guide to Having a Baby
by Ann Douglas and John R. Sussman, M.D., packed with helpful, detailed information about planning and managing a pregnancy and delivery, baby care and alternative parenting options including surrogacy and adoption.
The book contains helpful parenting and fertility websites as well as a sample gestational surrogacy contract. Macmillian USA, N.Y., N.Y. 1999. 

Getting Pregnant-What Couples Need To Know Right Now by Niels H. Lauersen, M.D.,Ph.D and Colette Bouchez. Updated, must-read fertility and pregnancy guide, including the latest treatments and techniques for a successful pregnancy. A Fireside book, Simon & Schuster, NY, NY 1991, 2000.

Resolving Infertility by the Staff of Resolve, The National Infertility Association with Diane Aronson, Executive Director.  “Must-have” primer for infertility patients and anyone interested in infertility issues. The causes of infertility are discussed in-depth as well as the latest in medical treatments and parenting options. Emotional and financial aspects are covered. Tips for dealing with insurance, helpful questions to ask providers and a glossary of terms and a resource guide to other organizations are also included. Copies may be ordered on-line at Resolve’s website, . In hard cover, Harper Collins Publishers, Inc., New York, NY 1999

The American Society for Reproductive Medicine’s Complete Guide to Fertility by Sandra Ann Carson, M.D. and Peter R. Casson, M.D.  Examines the causes of infertility and the latest in reproductive treatments (including surrogacy).  In softcover. Contemporary Books, Lincolnwood, IL 1999.

Expecting Miracles by Christo Zouves,M.D.   California fertility specialist writes about hiscases. Henry Holt & Company, NY, NY  1999 (Call 1-888-330-8477)

Between Strangers by Lori B. Andrews, Professor of Law.  Interviews surrogate mothers, discusses issues, gives history of surrogacy in US since 1976,  examines how politics  has shaped public policy against surrogacy in New York,  Michigan and other states. Harper & Row,  NY 1989.   At the library.  

New Conceptions by Lori B. Andrews.   One of the earlier books on the new infertility treatments, Chapter 8 is still a good source of information about surrogate parenting. Topics include emotional, legal, medical and social aspects.  Ballantine Books, NY 1984.  At the library.

Phoebe’s Family by Linda Stamm, Psy.D. Shows how egg donation can be explained to young children. Colorful, upbeat book promotes open communication and honesty.  2003, Roswell, GA.  Available from Tapestry Books at  or call 800 765-2367.

Hope and Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Adoption by Irene Celcer, MSW.
A collection of children's books to explain surrogacy, egg donation, sperm donation and embryo adoption. Also coming: books to explain conception and adoption. Published 2007 by Graphite Press, NY.

Hope & Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Egg Donation, ISBN 9780975581018 (0975581015)
Hope & Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Embryo Donation, ISBN 9780975581025 (0975581023)
Hope & Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Sperm Donation, ISBN 9780975581032 (0975581031)
Hope & Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Surrogacy, ISBN 9780975581049 (097558104X)

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Beyond Infertility. The New Paths to Parenthood by Susan L. Cooper and Ellen S. Glazer In-depth discussion covering emotional and medical aspects of infertility treatment, IVF, pregnancy loss, egg and sperm donation, living child-free, surrogacy and embryo adoption. Must reading for prospective parents and surrogate mothers alike. Lexington Books, NY,1994

Gay Parenting - Complete Guide for Same-Sex Families
by Shana Priwer and Cynthia Phillips. Family-building guide for same sex couples and gay singles includes chapters on adoption and surrogacy. Medical, legal and practical issues are discussed. New Horizons Press, Far Hills, NJ 2006

Surrogacy Was The Way…Twenty intended mothers tell their stories by Zara Griswold. Written from the mothers’ perspective, this book shares their personal feelings, worries and expectations going through the surrogacy process. Emphasis is on internet arrangements, although problems with some agencies are also mentioned. Nightengale Press, Gurnee, IL. 2006

1998 - Assisted Reproductive Technology Success Rates
, a report on clinic success rates by state, published Dec. 2000 b the U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services. Centers for Disease Control in cooperation with the American Society for Reproductive Medicine and Resolve. Updates available on-line at the CDC website at .  

Choosing Assisted Reproduction by Susan L. Cooper and Ellen S. Glazer.  This helpful new book is a updated sequel to Beyond Infertility. Examines the social, emotional and ethical issues in building a family through ART. Topics covered include IVF, sperm and egg donation, surrogacy and embryo adoption. Perspectives Press, Indianapolis, IN 1998  

Surrogate Motherhood - Conception in the Heart by Helena Ragone' .First ethnographic study of surrogate mother programs, program directors, surrogates and commissioning couples. Dated, but interesting, study of the "surrogacy industry" from an anthropological point of view.  Sample forms and contracts used for surrogacy and egg donation are included.  Westview Press, Boulder, CO 1994

A Matter of Trust - The Guide to Gestational Surrogacy by Gail Dutton    Softcover guide covering medical, psychological and legal aspects of Gestational Surrogacy. Information about ART statistics and surrogacy laws are also included, as well as a list of support groups.  Clouds Publishing,  Irvine CA  1997 

The Infertility Survival Handbook
by Elizabeth Swire Falker 

Private Choices, Public Consequences by Lynda Beck Fenwick  Examines the legal, ethical and moral dilemmas of new reproductive alternatives. Penguin Putnam, Inc. NY, NY 1998

Miracle Child by Cheryl Saban    Writer Cheryl Saban is the wife of producer Haim Saban and mother of four children, two through gestational surrogacy.  In her book, Cheryl tells how she overcame great obstacles to complete her family. New Horizons Press, Far Hills, NJ,1993  

Getting Pregnant When You Thought You Couldn't by Helane S. Rosenberg, PH.D. and Yakov M. Epstein, PH.D.   Warner Books, Inc.  NY  1993   

Surrogate Parenting
by Amy Zuckerman Overvold,  Pharos Books,  NY  1988.  At the library.  

Surviving Infertility by Linda P. Salzer,  Harper Perennial   NY   1992   At the library.  

New Options for Fertility  by Professor Arthur Wiscot, MD amd David Meldrum, MD Pharos Books, distributed by St. Martin's Press   1990   At the library.  

The Long-Awaited Stork by Ellen Glazer,   Lexington Books,  Lexington MA  1990  (A Guide to Parenting After Infertility).  

Wanting Another Child by Harriet Fishman Simons (coping with secondary infertility) Lexington Books,  New York, NY 1995  

The Flight of the Stork by Anne C. Bernstein - What Children Think (and When) about Sex and Family Building,  Perspectives Press  Indianapolis, IN 1994  

The Baby-Makers by Diana Frank and Marta Vogel,  Carrol & Graf   NY   1988  At the library.  

In Vitro Fertilization by Geoffrey Sher, MD.   New book providing in-depth information on the medical aspects of IVF and related procedures. Egg donation and gestational (IVF) surrogacy are covered.  Facts On File, Inc., New York, NY. 1995   

Having Your Baby Through Egg Donation by Ellen Sarasohn Glazer & Evelina Weidman Sterling. New book giving an overview of the egg donation process. The book discusses issues to consider when choosing donor eggs, working with mental health counselors and lawyers, handling medical aspects, privacy and openness and ethical issues, among others. Perspectives Press, Indianapolis, IN 2005.    

Family Building through Egg and Sperm Donation by Machelle M. Seibel, MD and Susan L. Crockin, J.D.   New book covering the medical, legal and ethical issues involved in using donor sperm and eggs. Jones and Bartlett Publishers, Sudbury, MA  1996  

Dr. Richard Marr's Fertility Book by Richard Marrs, MD.  Empowers infertile couples to understand and take charge of their infertility. The newest medical treatments and reproductive alternatives for family-building (including surrogacy) are discussed. Delacorte Press, New York, NY 1997

A Gay Couples Journey Through Surrogacy - Intended Fathers by Michael Menichiello. A father writes about his surrogacy experience. In paperback. Haworth Press, Binghamton, NY 2006




Resolve's national office has a fact sheet about surrogacy, available for $3.50  (members) and $6.50  (non-members). Write: Resolve, Inc.  1310 Broadway, Somerville, MA 02144-1731.                               

Surrogacy Wars by Lori B. Andrews (politics of surrogacy - California focus) California Lawyer Magazine  Oct. 1992 issue



Should You Help Your Sister Have a Baby?
  by Merle Bombardieri, LICSW. (for family-members working together).  OPTS NEWS  Vol. 9  1991

Overview of Surrogate Parenting by Hilary Hanafin, Ph.D.  1996   Discusses the role of the psychological professional in screening and counseling participants in surrogacy arrangements.

Motivations of Surrogate Mothers: Parenthood, Altruism and Self-Actualization by Betsy P. Aigen, Psy.D.  A three year study examining the motivations of surrogate mothers in the New York area. For copies, write to Dr. Aigen at 220 W. 93rd St., Suite 1A, New York, NY 10025.



Model Surrogacy Act:  A proposal of the American Bar Association's Section of Family Law's Adoption and Ad Hoc Surrogacy Committee.  1988 proposal with recommendation for state laws.  Contact American Bar Association, Section of Family Law, Chicago, Illinois to request a copy.  

Beyond Doctrinal Boundaries: A Legal Framework for Surrogate Motherhood by Lori B. Andrews, Professor of Law.  Published 1995  Virginia Law Review,  Charlottesville, VA    Volume 81,  No. 8.  

Reproductive Technology and Intent-Based Parenthood: An Opportunity for Gender Neutrality by Marjorie Maguire Schultz, Professor of Law.  Published 1990  Wisconsin Law Review, Volume 1990.  No. 2.  

What Does It Mean To Be A Parent? The Claims of Biology as the Basis for Parental Rights by John Lawrence Hill, Professor of Law. Published 1991,  New York University Law Review, Volume 66.  

Embryos, Families and Procreative Liberty: The Legal Structure of the New Reproduction by John A. Robertson, Professor of Law.  Published 1986, Southern California Law Review, Volume 59, No. 5.  

A Guide To Reproductive and Genetic Technologies - A Selected Bibliography of Medical and Legal Writing.  A report of the Task Force on the Law of Reproduction and Genetic Technology. Published 1990,    American Bar Association,   Section of Family Law, Chicago, IL.  

Infertility: Medical and Social Choices:  Policy Issues and Options for Congressional Action. This informative publication discusses whether Congress should regulate surrogate mother arrangements and/or facilitate development of state regulation. Ethical and constitutional issues are discussed.   Published 1988 by the Congressional Office of Technology Assessment, Washington D.C.  (At the library).  

Surrogate Motherhood: Politics and Privacy  Edited by Larry Gostin.  Scholars debate  surrogate parenting in this collection of essays inspired by the Baby M case. Of special interest: "Surrogate Motherhood: The Challenge for Feminists" by Lori B. Andrews on p. 167 and the Model Surrogacy Act, p. 270. Published 1988, American Society of Law and Medicine. Indiana University Press, Bloomington, Indiana.  

Children of Choice - Freedom and the New Reproductive Technologies by John A. Robertson, Professor of Law.  Undertakes an analysis of the social, ethical and legal controversies surrounding reproductive options. Published 1994 by Princeton University Press, Princeton, NJ.  At the library.  

Surrogacy: The Case for Full Contractual Enforcement by Richard A. Epstein, Professor of Law. Published 1995, Virginia Law Review, Charlottesville, VA   Volume 81, No. 8.  

Birth Power - The Case for Surrogacy by Carmel Shalev (feminist lawyer)  Published 1989  Yale University Press,  New Haven, CT.  

Adoptions:  An Attorney's Guide to Helping Adoptive Parents  by H. Joseph Gitlin, Attorney at Law,  (see Chapter 14, Parentage Through Surrogacy). Published 1987, Callaghan & Company, Wilmette, IL.  

Surrogacy: What Progress Since Hagar, Bilhah and Zilpah! by Julia J. Tate, Attorney at Law.  Published 1994 American Bar Association, Section of Family Law, Chicago, IL.  

The Politics of Pregnancy, edited by Janna C. Merrick and Robert H. Blank   Discusses whether states have a compelling interest in restricting surrogate parenting,   presents legal arguments on both sides,   interprets current state laws, recaps court decisions. Published 1993,  Harrington Park Press, Binghamton, NY  Pages 203-221.  

“Examining Surrogacy Discourses Between Feminine Power and Exploitation” by Elizabeth Roberts From the book, “Small Wars: The Cultural Politics of Childhood.” This article discusses whether surrogacy should be viewed as an extension of feminist power or exploitation. The author examines feminist arguments and also draws conclusions based on her field work at surrogacy agencies and personal interviews with surrogates and parents. Published 1998, University of California Press, Berkeley, CA  

“Native Narratives of Connectedness: Surrogate Motherhood and Technology  by Elizabeth Roberts. From the book, “Cyborg Babies.”  Examines how technology impacts cultural concepts of motherhood.  Published 1998, Routledge, New York, NY  




Through Her I Too Shall Bear A Child - Birth Surrogates in Jewish Law by Rabbi Elie Spitz.  Surrogacy from a Rabbi's perspective. Published in the Journal of Religious Ethics, Volume 24, Issue # 1.  Copies are available at $15.50 each (including postage and handling) from Scholars Press, Customer Service Dept., P.O. Box 133089, Atlanta, GA 30333.



Fertile Ground by Collette Legault    This helpful documentary includes interviews with client parents and surrogates from New England Surrogate Parenting Advisors, in Middleton, MA as well as the agency’s psychologist, fertility specialist and attorney. All parties provide insights into the issues involved in becoming or using a surrogate. Copies of the film are available from Aquarias Health Care Videos, 5 Powderhouse Lane, P.O. Box 1159. Sherborn, MA 01770. Phone: 508 651-2963  Fax: 508 650-4216 or at their website, Running time is 65 minutes and the cost is $125 plus shipping.

"She's Having Our Baby"   - ABC's TURNING POINT,  April 3, 1997.   A one hour special on surrogacy, featuring OPTS Members, Kim and Ted May and  their surrogate, Wendi Hafner.   Videos and Transcripts are available from ABC NEWS at 1-800-913-3434



Feminists Against Women: the New Reproductive Technologies by Wendy McElroy. Ms. McElroy is the author of several books and a number of articles about feminism. Read this article on line at Ms. McElroy’s website: and part  two (about surrogacy specifically) at  .




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