When interviewing surrogacy
services, please keep in mind that they are all run differently. Try to learn as
much as you can about any program or service that interests you and get
references, before signing up.
ABOUT THE PROGRAM
When was your service established? Who runs it (doctor, lawyer, social worker,
etc)? What professional services (medical, psychological and legal) are provided
for patients/clients? How much experience have you had providing surrogacy
services? How many babies have been bon so far through (AI) Artificial
Insemination Surrogacy? Gestational (IVF) Surrogacy? Egg Donation? Has a
surrogate mother ever changed her mind about relinquishment? if so, how was this
handled? Have you ever been or are you currently in litigation over handling of
a case? What kind of support services (such as support groups) are available for
couples and surrogates? How big is your staff and who will we be dealing with
most of the time? Is there now a waiting list? Can you provide references? Is a
brochure and cost-sheet available?
ABOUT THE PROCESS
How do you find prospective parents and surrogates? What are your requirements
for each? What kind of screening is required? Are surrogate mothers screened
before or after being presented to couples or vice-versa? What if a prospective
surrogate decides not to work with us after the screening has been completed?
Are our screening fees refundable? can couples and surrogates meet in this
program or do you recommend strict anonymity? Who will be responsible for
helping everyone with the details? How about for clinical appointments for
inseminations or embryo transfers? Is sperm for inseminations banked and
pre-tested before use? Or are the inseminations done with fresh sperm? If so,
what precautions are taken to ensure it's healthy and disease free? Who decides
what tests and/or treatments (if any) the surrogate should receive before or
during pregnancy? Does your program require a negative pregnancy test before any
procedures are attempted? How about after a missed period? Is a positive
pregnancy test required? What if a pregnancy is achieved within a specified
amount of time? Can we get re-matched without additional cost? Can we be present
for the birth? Will you be able to help us complete the process for parental
rights after the birth of the baby or will we need to hire another lawyer? What
if the surrogate mother is asked to appear in court to help complete the legal
work. Will she be able to and willing to travel to help us complete the process
for parental rights?
ABOUT PRIVACY ISSUES
What outside support or other groups will have access to our personal
information about us or our surrogate? What assurances can you give us that all
personal information about us and our surrogate will stay strictly confidential?
Will we be asked to sign a contract or pay a fee for our surrogate's membership
in any group outside your regular agency support group?
What is your fee policy? Is there a charge for an initial consultation? Will
your program or service handle all payments for us directly or will we be
required to pay expenses directly? How much will it cost (ballpark figure) for
AI Surrogacy? Gestational Surrogacy? Egg Donation? If we should change our minds
after signing up with your service, are our funds refundable? Will you be able
to give us an itemized statement of expenses as the process goes along? How does
your program handle the expenses and/or compensation for the surrogate? What
additional expenses might be involved? Is health and/or life insurance available
for the surrogate mother?
Will we be asked to sign a contract?* How about the surrogate mother? Will each
party have separator legal counsel? Can we all have a copy of the agreement to
review before signing it? How binding is this agreement on the parties involved?
Can we add ir change some aspects, if desired? How do the laws of this state or
the state where the baby will be born affect any agreement we wish to make?
*Most IVF clinics require a signed contract between the parties, whether or not
it would be enforceable.