My name is Amy Lynn but most of my on-line
friends call me Lynn. I'm 27 years old, have been married to a wonderful man for
9 years and have 2 children. Our son is 8, and our daughter is 4. On October
16th I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy for a couple in New Jersey. I was a
surrogate through IVF, and I was the carrier. I have no genetic relationship to
the baby...it was the other woman's egg and her husband's sperm. I was just the
"womb and board" for 9 months!
It was a wonderful experience for all of us! I know that there are some real
scary stories out there, but I am here to tell you that it can be the most
blessed journey imaginable! After meeting the couple last year we hit it off
immediately. My husband and I had always hoped to do this for another couple,
but after meeting them, it felt even more exciting to know who we were doing it
for! After all the legal contracts were signed, we were ready to begin. So in
January of this year, on Super Bowl Sunday, the "genetic mom" was having her
eggs retrieved. A few days later I flew out to Philadelphia where the clinic is,
to be implanted with 2 embryos. Then the hard part began...waiting 2 weeks for
the pregnancy results. My heart was beating so fast when I found out I was
pregnant! I had the pleasure of calling the "genetic mom" up and telling her the
good news. We both cried together and I will never forget that phone call and
the joy in her voice! I had a great pregnancy with no complications at all...I
know I am very fortunate. They came out here, in Western PA where we live, for
the delivery. The delivery room was like a big party. Finally after 7 hours of
labor...of which 1 1/2 was spent pushing!...the little miracle was born! The
couple let me hold him first, but I was crying so hard I could hardly see! I
passed the baby over to his REAL mom and we all hugged and cried together.
Now, an artist can't paint a beautiful picture without some tools....and a
surrogate can't do this alone either! I am blessed to have a supportive husband
that is my best friend. And two kids that were so accepting of what their mother
was about to do for some woman they had never know before last year. I also have
faith in God that He was with me every step of the way. And good communication
has to exist between the surrogate and the other couple!
We talked often on the phone, visited each other whenever possible, and always
tried to be considerate of each other's feelings. They welcomed and loved my
husband and my children like we were family. To all of you couples out there
looking for a surrogate...my advice to you is to do what our "genetic couple"
did, and try to show trust and understanding to the surrogate. After all, we
have had children before, we know what we are doing, and we do take care of
ourselves while pregnant...regardless of who's child it is.
In conclusion...it wasn't always a bed of roses at times...there was the
medication, the shots, pregnancy, and labor. BUT, I never lost sight of what
could be accomplished...and that was a precious gift of life! And what is more
important than that?