Our Surrogacy Story
How do you thank a woman who has given you
the gift of life when all your hopes for having a child had evaporated? There
are no words that can express our feelings for our surrogate mother.
My infertility resulted from the use of the Dalkon Shield IUD. We tried to adopt
but were told that by the time all the processing was done and the wait of two
to four years, we would no longer meet the age requirements. Through chance, we
read an article on Surrogacy and so began our wonderful and quite different
We have never met or talked with our surrogate mother except through letters as
that was our agency's policy. After an uneventful pregnancy, our beautiful baby
daughter was born. What joy and love we felt! Five days later, our agency called
and asked us to testify before Congress with them. This was in October of 1987.
We felt Congress needed to hear the positive side of surrogacy, so we went to
Washington D.C. with our daughter and into the spotlight. The Congressmen had
their own agenda and only one person on the panel of nine was interested in what
we had to say. Everyone was more interested in Mary Beth Whitehead, but we felt
we had an obligation to other infertile couples to keep this option open.
We were blessed again when our surrogate mother wanted to help us have another
child. The love we feel for this woman is overwhelming; she gave so much to us!
Again, after an uneventful pregnancy, our son was born. When he was four months
old, we found he had a genetic disorder called Glycogen Storage Disease, Type 1
B, which affects his liver and white blood cells. Without feedings of cornstarch
every four hours around the clock, he would die. But with the cornstarch and
drug to increase his white blood count, he is a well controlled and an active,
Yes, there is a lot of stress involved in his care. We set two alarm clocks to
be sure we are up at 3:00 AM to feed him. Our life is hectic and not how we
pictured it would be, but do we have any regrets? No, Never! He is our son, and
is bonded to us, as is our daughter. Our only regret is that we never met our
surrogate mother to thank her for all she has given to us.